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They Called Us Exceptional : And Other Lies That Raised Us by Prachi Gupta (2023, Hardcover)

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PublisherCrown Publishing Group, T.H.E.

ISBN-100593442989

ISBN-139780593442982

eBay Product ID (ePID)23058810282

Product Key Features

Book TitleThey Called Us Exceptional : and Other Lies That Raised Us

Number of Pages288 Pages

LanguageEnglish

Publication Year2023

TopicWomen, Personal Memoirs

GenreBiography & Autobiography

AuthorPrachi Gupta

FormatHardcover

Dimensions

Item Height1.1 in

Item Weight17 Oz

Item Length9.6 in

Item Width6.5 in

Additional Product Features

Intended AudienceTrade

LCCN2023-011957

Dewey Edition23

Reviews" They Called Us Exceptional is a marvel: a searingly honest memoir that manages to be at once a scalding indictment, and a heartfelt love letter. In its descriptions of the struggle to live authentically across two cultures, Gupta's book evokes W.E.B DuBois and Maxine Hong Kingston; in its exploration of how family psychopathology and cultural history entwine themselves across generations." --Scott Stossel, national editor of The Atlantic and author of My Age of Anxiety "It's not very often that the word 'necessary' in a book review feels, well, necessary. And yet, more than perhaps any other book to come across my desk this year, I want to shout from the mountaintops and the depths of the sea--upward, downward, and everywhere in between--that you must read this book . Gupta has penned one of the most gripping blends of memoir and reporting, writing a book whose page-turning is compelled as much by masterful macro-level storytelling as by memoir." -- Jina Moore Ngarambe for Guernica "What happens when a person discovers that the American Dream is a virus? Gupta's stunning and devastating debut contorts genre--existing as a disquisition on Asian American assimilation into the West, a bird's-eye view of how patriarchy, capitalism, and white supremacy congealed to destroy a family, and a coming-of-age tale about a woman who had to fight to make space for her voice." --Damon Young, author of What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Blacker "A memoir so honest and intimate, I felt I ought to look away. Gupta blasts through the imprisoning phrase Log kya kahenge --'What will people say?'--and brings us into her life and her home with awe-inspiring courage, nuance, and intelligence." --Diksha Basu, author of The Windfall "Gupta has penned a gripping memoir that considers immigrant aspirations and tribulations alongside the heavy generational trauma of an immigrant parent leaving behind the known and the loved. With grace and dexterity, Gupta bravely interrogates not only the obvious but also the seething emotional territory that lies just beneath . . . A remarkable book that is both lyrical and brave." --Rafia Zakaria, author of Against White Feminism "Passionate . . . [Gupta's] startling candor and willingness to confront painful truths make this sing. Readers who've broken free from toxic family dynamics--or are hoping to do so--will want to check it out." -- Publishers Weekly (starred review) " They Called Us Exceptional is a heartfelt memoir of love and dysfunction, an indictment of the premium America places on exterior markers of success, and a careful exploration of the legacies of institutionalized racism, family illness, and constrictive ideals of gender." -- Booklist, "In this vulnerable and courageous memoir, Prachi Gupta takes the myth of the exceptional Indian American family to task . . . [her] resilience and her hope to be fully seen are an inspiration in both personal and political terms." -- The Washington Post "She explains better than any writer I've ever encountered how conflicts that may appear low-stakes--such as an argument over grades or extracurriculars--can tear open an unnavigable gulf. She does this while loving, and grieving, her formerly close family." -- The Atlantic " They Called Us Exceptional is a marvel: a searingly honest memoir that manages to be at once a scalding indictment, and a heartfelt love letter. In its descriptions of the struggle to live authentically across two cultures, Gupta's book evokes W.E.B DuBois and Maxine Hong Kingston; in its exploration of how family psychopathology and cultural history entwine themselves across generations, it calls to mind Gabriel García Márquez and Salman Rushdie. And in telling the story of her family's wrenching private travails behind the public successes, Gupta has proven herself exceptional in at least two regards--as a woman of formidable resilience and as a writer of outsized talent." --Scott Stossel, national editor of The Atlantic and author of My Age of Anxiety "I read it in one sitting. Wow. It aims right at the tender spot where racism, sexism, and family dynamics collide, and somehow manages to be both searingly honest and deeply compassionate." --Celeste Ng, author of Little Fires Everywhere "[Prachi] Gupta has penned one of the most gripping blends of memoir and reporting, writing a book whose page-turning is compelled as much by masterful macro-level storytelling as by memoir." -- Jina Moore Ngarambe for Guernica "Gupta's stunning and devastating debut contorts genre--existing as a disquisition on Asian American assimilation into the West, a bird's-eye view of how patriarchy, capitalism, and white supremacy congealed to destroy a family, and a coming-of-age tale about a woman who had to fight to make space for her voice." --Damon Young, author of What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Blacker "A memoir so honest and intimate, I felt I ought to look away. Gupta blasts through the imprisoning phrase Log kya kahenge --'What will people say?'--and brings us into her life and her home with awe-inspiring courage, nuance, and intelligence." --Diksha Basu, author of The Windfall "A remarkable book that is both lyrical and brave." --Rafia Zakaria, author of Against White Feminism "For readers interested in complicated, thoughtful and beautifully written family stories that explore the cost of the model-minority myth, this book is as good as it gets." -- BookPage "[Gupta's] startling candor and willingness to confront painful truths make this sing. Readers who've broken free from toxic family dynamics--or are hoping to do so--will want to check it out." -- Publishers Weekly (starred review) " They Called Us Exceptional is a heartfelt memoir of love and dysfunction, an indictment of the premium America places on exterior markers of success . . ." -- Booklist, "A memoir so honest and intimate, I felt I ought to look away. Log kya kahenge --in They Called Us Exceptional , Prachi Gupta blasts through that imprisoning phrase-- what will people say --and brings us into her life and her home with awe-inspiring courage, nuance, and intelligence." --Diksha Basu, author of The Windfall, "In this vulnerable and courageous memoir, Prachi Gupta takes the myth of the exceptional Indian American family to task . . . [her] resilience and her hope to be fully seen are an inspiration in both personal and political terms." -- The Washington Post "She explains better than any writer I've ever encountered how conflicts that may appear low-stakes--such as an argument over grades or extracurriculars--can tear open an unnavigable gulf. She does this while loving, and grieving, her formerly close family." -- The Atlantic " They Called Us Exceptional is a marvel: a searingly honest memoir that manages to be at once a scalding indictment, and a heartfelt love letter. In its descriptions of the struggle to live authentically across two cultures, Gupta's book evokes W.E.B DuBois and Maxine Hong Kingston; in its exploration of how family psychopathology and cultural history entwine themselves across generations." --Scott Stossel, national editor of The Atlantic and author of My Age of Anxiety "I read it in one sitting. Wow. It aims right at the tender spot where racism, sexism, and family dynamics collide, and somehow manages to be both searingly honest and deeply compassionate." --Celeste Ng, author of Little Fires Everywhere "[Prachi] Gupta has penned one of the most gripping blends of memoir and reporting, writing a book whose page-turning is compelled as much by masterful macro-level storytelling as by memoir." -- Jina Moore Ngarambe for Guernica "What happens when a person discovers that the American Dream is a virus? Gupta's stunning and devastating debut contorts genre--existing as a disquisition on Asian American assimilation into the West, a bird's-eye view of how patriarchy, capitalism, and white supremacy congealed to destroy a family, and a coming-of-age tale about a woman who had to fight to make space for her voice." --Damon Young, author of What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Blacker "A memoir so honest and intimate, I felt I ought to look away. Gupta blasts through the imprisoning phrase Log kya kahenge --'What will people say?'--and brings us into her life and her home with awe-inspiring courage, nuance, and intelligence." --Diksha Basu, author of The Windfall "Gupta has penned a gripping memoir that considers immigrant aspirations and tribulations alongside the heavy generational trauma of an immigrant parent leaving behind the known and the loved. With grace and dexterity, Gupta bravely interrogates not only the obvious but also the seething emotional territory that lies just beneath . . . A remarkable book that is both lyrical and brave." --Rafia Zakaria, author of Against White Feminism "Self-directed and accomplished . . . For readers interested in complicated, thoughtful and beautifully written family stories that explore the cost of the model-minority myth, this book is as good as it gets." -- BookPage "Passionate . . . [Gupta's] startling candor and willingness to confront painful truths make this sing. Readers who've broken free from toxic family dynamics--or are hoping to do so--will want to check it out." -- Publishers Weekly (starred review) " They Called Us Exceptional is a heartfelt memoir of love and dysfunction, an indictment of the premium America places on exterior markers of success, and a careful exploration of the legacies of institutionalized racism, family illness, and constrictive ideals of gender." -- Booklist, "Holding up to the light received ideas of success, and examining with boundless love the secrets and sorrows of one family, Prachi Gupta shows us the life-altering power of telling one's truth." --Megha Majumdar, New York Times bestselling author of A Burning "A memoir so honest and intimate, I felt I ought to look away. Log kya kahenge --in They Called Us Exceptional , Prachi Gupta blasts through that imprisoning phrase-- what will people say --and brings us into her life and her home with awe-inspiring courage, nuance, and intelligence." --Diksha Basu, author of The Windfall, "In holding up to the light received ideas of success and examining with boundless love the secrets and sorrows of one family, Prachi Gupta shows us the life-altering power of telling one's truth." --Megha Majumdar, New York Times bestselling author of A Burning "A memoir so honest and intimate, I felt I ought to look away. Log kya kahenge --in They Called Us Exceptional , Prachi Gupta blasts through that imprisoning phrase-- what will people say --and brings us into her life and her home with awe-inspiring courage, nuance, and intelligence." --Diksha Basu, author of The Windfall "Gupta has penned a gripping memoir that considers not simply immigrant aspirations and tribulations but also the heavy generational cost of the trauma of immigrant parent's act of leaving behind the known and the loved. With grace and dexterity Gupta takes her reader into the complications and contradictions of growing up in an immigrant family bravely interrogating not only the obvious but also the seething emotional territory that lies just beneath. A remarkable book that is both lyrical and brave." --Rafia Zakaria, author of Against White Feminism, " They Called Us Exceptional is a marvel: a searingly honest memoir that manages to be at once a scalding indictment, and a heartfelt love letter. In its descriptions of the struggle to live authentically across two cultures, Gupta's book evokes W.E.B DuBois and Maxine Hong Kingston; in its exploration of how family psychopathology and cultural history entwine themselves across generations." --Scott Stossel, national editor of The Atlantic and author of My Age of Anxiety "What happens when a person discovers that the American Dream is a virus? Gupta's stunning and devastating debut contorts genre--existing as a disquisition on Asian American assimilation into the West, a bird's-eye view of how patriarchy, capitalism, and white supremacy congealed to destroy a family, and a coming-of-age tale about a woman who had to fight to make space for her voice." --Damon Young, author of What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Blacker "A memoir so honest and intimate, I felt I ought to look away. Gupta blasts through the imprisoning phrase Log kya kahenge --'What will people say?'--and brings us into her life and her home with awe-inspiring courage, nuance, and intelligence." --Diksha Basu, author of The Windfall "Gupta has penned a gripping memoir that considers immigrant aspirations and tribulations alongside the heavy generational trauma of an immigrant parent leaving behind the known and the loved. With grace and dexterity, Gupta bravely interrogates not only the obvious but also the seething emotional territory that lies just beneath . . . A remarkable book that is both lyrical and brave." --Rafia Zakaria, author of Against White Feminism "Passionate. . . . [Gupta's] startling candor and willingness to confront painful truths make this sing. Readers who've broken free from toxic family dynamics--or are hoping to do so--will want to check it out." -- Publishers Weekly (starred review) " They Called Us Exceptional is a heartfelt memoir of love and dysfunction, an indictment of the premium America places on exterior markers of success, and a careful exploration of the legacies of institutionalized racism, family illness, and constrictive ideals of gender." -- Booklist

Dewey Decimal305.891411073092

Synopsis"In this vulnerable and courageous memoir, Prachi Gupta takes the myth of the exceptional Indian American family to task."-- The Washington Post "I read it in one sitting. Wow. It aims right at the tender spot where racism, sexism, and family dynamics collide, and somehow manages to be both searingly honest and deeply compassionate."--Celeste Ng, New York Times bestselling author of Little Fires Everywhere A SHE READS BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR - ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE SEASON: The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Boston Globe, Bustle How do we understand ourselves when the story about who we are supposed to be is stronger than our sense of self? What do we stand to gain--and lose--by taking control of our narrative? Family defined the cultural identity of Prachi and her brother, Yush, connecting them to a larger Indian American community amid white suburbia. But their belonging was predicated on a powerful myth: the idea that Asian Americans, and Indian Americans in particular, have perfected the alchemy of middle-class life, raising tight-knit, high-achieving families that are immune to hardship. Molding oneself to fit this image often comes at a steep, but hidden, cost. In They Called Us Exceptional , Gupta articulates the dissonance, shame, and isolation of being upheld as an American success story while privately navigating traumas the world says do not exist. Gupta addresses her story to her mother, braiding a deeply vulnerable personal narrative with history, postcolonial theory, and research on mental health to show how she slowly made sense of her reality and freed herself from the pervasive, reductive myth that had once defined her. But tragically, the act that liberated Gupta was also the act that distanced her from those she loved most. By charting her family's slow unraveling, and her determination to break the cycle, Gupta shows how traditional notions of success keep us disconnected from ourselves and one another--and passionately argues why we must orient ourselves toward compassion over belonging., "In this vulnerable and courageous memoir, Prachi Gupta takes the myth of the exceptional Indian American family to task."-- The Washington Post "I read it in one sitting. Wow. It aims right at the tender spot where racism, sexism, and family dynamics collide, and somehow manages to be both searingly honest and deeply compassionate."--Celeste Ng, New York Times bestselling author of Little Fires Everywhere LONGLISTED FOR THE PEN/OPEN BOOK AWARD * A SHE READS BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR * ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE SEASON: The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Boston Globe, Bustle How do we understand ourselves when the story about who we are supposed to be is stronger than our sense of self? What do we stand to gain--and lose--by taking control of our narrative? Family defined the cultural identity of Prachi and her brother, Yush, connecting them to a larger Indian American community amid white suburbia. But their belonging was predicated on a powerful myth: the idea that Asian Americans, and Indian Americans in particular, have perfected the alchemy of middle-class life, raising tight-knit, high-achieving families that are immune to hardship. Molding oneself to fit this image often comes at a steep, but hidden, cost. In They Called Us Exceptional , Gupta articulates the dissonance, shame, and isolation of being upheld as an American success story while privately navigating traumas the world says do not exist. Gupta addresses her story to her mother, braiding a deeply vulnerable personal narrative with history, postcolonial theory, and research on mental health to show how she slowly made sense of her reality and freed herself from the pervasive, reductive myth that had once defined her. But tragically, the act that liberated Gupta was also the act that distanced her from those she loved most. By charting her family's slow unraveling, and her determination to break the cycle, Gupta shows how traditional notions of success keep us disconnected from ourselves and one another--and passionately argues why we must orient ourselves toward compassion over belonging.

LC Classification NumberE184.E2G87 2023